Just an open letter to address the issues and emotional turbulence

 Dear Vrutant,

I hope you're doing well and had a good day so far. Following up on our conversation on WhatsApp, I wanted to give this another try and explain my state of mind, especially since we keep circling back to the same topic.

First, I want to address your concern about me referring to your mum as Mrs. Naresh. I didn’t mean it intentionally. You knew how nervous and anxious I was when I heard her voice. You were sitting right next to me, and I wasn’t even ready to talk to her, but I felt forced to. I messaged you beforehand saying I didn’t know how I’d handle it, and you reassured me, saying you had faith in me. I really don’t understand where I went wrong there.

The day your family crossed all boundaries, I decided I didn’t want to have any contact with them. I was even considering stepping away from our relationship entirely so I wouldn’t come between your happiness. But you assured me—again and again—that you wouldn’t go back to them, that you’d cut ties and build a life with me. Those promises made me rethink my decision, and I truly believed we could live peacefully together.

I know you left the house with me, and I appreciate that, but it didn’t take away the pain I went through. It didn’t erase the intensity of what happened or the wrongs that were done. Even when you went back to talk to them, there was no apology for the hurt they caused.

All those wounds, which I tried to bury, came alive again during what should have been some of the happiest days of my life. Instead, I was forced to endure heartbreak and pain because of the situation created by my family. It’s a feeling I can’t even fully describe—how helpless I felt when you couldn’t take a stand for me, whether it was the day before our wedding, spending a little more time with me, or simply asking how I was doing before involving them in our lives.

It brings back memories of how you would take a step back when it came to me and your family. How I was treated like an outsider—hidden away when I visited you, while you never stood up and said boldly, “She’s the woman I love and the one I’m going to marry.” You let me face insults in your house over the smallest things, and I felt like I had no one in my corner.

Now, with you being back in touch with them, I live in constant fear and anxiety—wondering when you might put me in a situation where I feel trapped again, unable to protect myself.

I know, for you, this is all in the past. Maybe you even compare it to the hurt you’ve felt, but I’ve always tried to protect your dignity and self-respect in every way I could. I’ve taken a stand for you in front of my family and the world, and I’d do it a thousand times to make sure no one disrespects you.

But the foundation of our relationship was jeopardized so deeply by your family. I’ve never carried this kind of emotional baggage before, and I’ve never been hurt or humiliated like this. I don’t know how to just forget it or not feel the sting every time I try to reconnect with them or protect that house.

I also take responsibility for being naïve—letting my love for you make me vulnerable to people who broke me to my core, even trying to raise a hand against me in front of my own family.

Right now, I feel lost. I’m struggling with broken promises and trust in our relationship. I feel this constant fear that I’ll have to live with something I never wanted, something that doesn’t feel fair or right to me.

The dynamics with your family are fragile, and I just want to heal. I want to live in the peace we had before, the ignorance that gave me some space to feel like myself. Because right now, I don’t feel like me. I’m not the bubbly, talkative person I used to be. I barely recognize myself.

I need your help to feel reassured again—to feel that we are the priority above anything else for eg. when I ask about getting our own home you talk about my house doesn't help at all. I need to know that our lives our family and our future won’t be interfered with by your family dynamics anymore. Actions speak louder than words, and I need to see those actions that tell me we’re solid, that we’re a team, and that our love is the foundation of everything. which will help us raise the family of our own too. that's how anyone has done it and that's how it goes once you marry your priority is me and our future otherwise I will not be able to feel a sense of belonging I would always feel second citizen.

I never thought while focusing on my physical health and well being during the break that I will have to redirect the wheels to my mental and emotional well being and health.

or we can just wait till I become silent and don't shout or yell about anything.