Posts

Life without Husband

 Lately me and babudu have been fighting a lot over things. previosuly I used to feel so hurt that I used to choke and feel pain infiltering till heart now when I look at it maturely I think the stronger I will cling into it more pain and chaos it will create. He doesn't understand a simple thing that after marriage you should prioritise and make your partner feel primary and rest of the world evolves around us. my family his family are supporting and important character in our life but nothing comes beyound us or between us. he doesnt understand that I am not unkind person after whatever his family treated me with I made it so clear that I don't want to have any relation with them it's just so traumatizing for me. he agreed to everything initially before marriage and he changed so much after marriage. I struggled and learnt to be ok around the people who hurted me part of my life. I even told him his mother can live with us ample amount of time where we go. but he keeps re...

The chaotic turmoil - the tale of a marriage

 It's been a few months since our marriage. everything feels so different and dead between us not sure where life will take us. for babudu suddenly from facing them in the marriage or seeing them in cousin's marriage or sad events now he visualises about living together. living happily there after forgetting everything in blink of eye. the baggage the trauma that his family gave me and humiliated my family in his own house is doing everything to protect it to live there I don't know this feels so challenging fundamentally that for him my self respect or dignity is like a doormat which anyone can ruin including himself him asking to stay in the house just for a day is like below the belt at so many levels I feel he does not respect me at all and that changes everything I used to see in this relationship I don't know if we will survive together for me life is important and living a moment without burden matters I think a life without marriage and it looks so calming and h...

In the memory of jo

 Hi Rjjo, today when I closed my eyes I could see glimpses of you! you wearing a jacket and walking on the grass it has been very long since I realised that we parted and how stupid I was for blaming you and cursing you for doing nothing for my illness. there is a deep longing that goes with the soul to see you or to walk with you in a parallel universe the laughter of yours still heard loud within me. wish we could have been friends.

hopelessly in love

 I do love Vrutant so much I can't stop thinking about him I can't get him out of my system when he asked for break and space I kept running around him being so clingy I have all the visuals so alive from the day he came to pick me up, sitting besides him in the car staring him, walking with him towards the beach, sitting there with him, looking at the ocean sun and him, talking life out, that simple dinner, the short hike, those stone balancing, him hearing the car sound, me trying to grab an opportunity to hold his hand, talking, leaning, having quick bites in sandwiches It was all magical and I didn't know then that I will fall in love with him. I still don't know I fell in love with him or how he made me feel or gave me everything to be myself that carefree, hopelessly in love, fighting for what matters. Still, I did he kept coming to me him eating that chia bowl on the sofa, travelling to calafat, holding me around, going to the beach at night, travelling for food,...

Just an open letter to address the issues and emotional turbulence

  Dear Vrutant, I hope you're doing well and had a good day so far. Following up on our conversation on WhatsApp, I wanted to give this another try and explain my state of mind, especially since we keep circling back to the same topic. First, I want to address your concern about me referring to your mum as Mrs. Naresh . I didn’t mean it intentionally. You knew how nervous and anxious I was when I heard her voice. You were sitting right next to me, and I wasn’t even ready to talk to her, but I felt forced to. I messaged you beforehand saying I didn’t know how I’d handle it, and you reassured me, saying you had faith in me. I really don’t understand where I went wrong there. The day your family crossed all boundaries, I decided I didn’t want to have any contact with them. I was even considering stepping away from our relationship entirely so I wouldn’t come between your happiness. But you assured me—again and again—that you wouldn’t go back to them, that you’d cut ties and build a li...

The sunset walk on colourful clouds

 This is a story about our first date ya I would call it a date but my bf hardly knew it was a date he thought he was just hanging out with some stranger in the streets of Barcelona I had plans to go to Andorra during the weekend and somehow it didn't happen for various other reasons that time I was so hopeful about Andorra and was a bit upset about missing the mountains having no idea of other plans the universe was making for me so when we were talking I was ok with worst-case scenarios taking travel inspirations and itineraries from him and decided to meet Vru after office hours I was excited for the drive to the beach as well since I havent been there after all the chaos I was texting him often and delaying our meetup unintentionally and was quite excited he started driving and the first conversation we had was very formal as if I was meeting my collegue outside the office I already punched him in my mind for that but this image didnt leave longer we started having conversation...

Vrutant & Hiral achievement 2023

 - 80 km cycling in a day - snorkel - DIY - scuba diving - running 1000km - good cooking  - baby steps for swimming - 20 countries - madrid, UK, portugal, Vielha, mallorca, tenerife holidays with babu - WAE offer - trading baby steps - new vertical exploration at WAE - Hiking